imagine if china, while they’re up on the moon, decides to knock down the US flag or whatever just to say ‘screw you’ and its like, what are we gonna do? spend a couple million just to fly some craft up to the moon and re-erect the flag? the whole scenario would be petty and that’s hilarious
i have lived in america my entire life and i am 100% sure we would do exactly that
Yes. We would.
So I found some links on ableism and I’m still reading them but yoooo I’m unlearning a lot of shit right now and I’m having a braingasm. Check it out.
Is this Ableism (i’m mad that i just now found this)
BUT YOO THIS ONE RELATES TO US AND CALLS US OUT YOOOO
The next person to compare racism to sociopathy on my dash gets a big unfollow.
Because I am tired of people thinking that “perceived as being unempathic” is the same thing as actually being unempathic.
I am tired of the lack of thought being put into the diagnostic criteria and how it impacts psych/patient dynamics.
I am tired of psychiatrists being seen as infallible and as knowing our own minds better than we do.
I am tired of diagnostic criteria that primarily rely upon another’s perception of your emotions or thought processes.
I am tired of the demonisation of people with non-neurotypical emotional responses.
I am tired of an uncritical approach to the concept of empathy.
I am tired of empathy being held up as what makes one a good person.
I am tired of being told that I am a bad person for not experiencing it or showing it in ways neurotypical people deem appropriate.
I am tired of this being “evidence” for why I am sub-human.
And I am tired of racists being let off too easily.
I am tired of racists being called sociopaths.
For them to be sociopaths, it would have to be widely recognised by society, and by their psychiatrists or other people in power, that their responses are not appropriate.
Socially learned or condoned sociopathy is an oxymoron that does not accurately portray any kind of mental illness, and perpetuates the dismissive stereotype that “everyone’s just a bit crazy”.
To call lack of empathy (or compassion) sociopathy lets white people off far too easily.
It implies that white people are not in power.
It implies that they did not shape the medical and psychiatric institutions to perpetuate racism and the kyriarchy in general.
It implies that the medical and psychiatric institutions (and those that participate in them in a position of power) are infallible.
And it overestimates the amount of power non-white people have in society, that they can label white people as sociopaths.
It implies that white people look uncompassionate or unempathic. Calling them sociopaths does not imply that they actually are these things.
I completely agree that much of the time, white people do not act with compassion towards non-white people. That much of the time they do not even view us as fully human compared to them.
But this is not sociopathy, and you should not compare it to sociopathy unless you are prepared to be critical of the power dynamics within the psychiatric institution, ideas of empathy, the idea that mental illness is by definition not the norm within its society, and that mentally ill people as a group do not hold power in a way that is comparable to Whiteness.
SO this is some cool stuff I found but is not even the tip of the iceberg. We have definitely had submissions where people discuss being on the intersection of ableism and racism, so yeah keep that up! But let’s stop with the slurs, k? Considering that ableism was/is used as a tool for racism I think we can understand, at least a little bit cause there is so much more, why this is messed up.
you can take one man’s trash to another man’s treasure but you can’t make it drink
Fun fact: the blending of idioms or cliches is called a malaphor.
My personal favorite is “We’ll burn that bridge when we get to it.”
I looked it up b/c that was a very familiar idiom and how could it be wrong but then
yeah wow that’s spot on perfect
A lot of men (and probably other genders, but mostly men) like to creepily hit on people (usually women) in contexts in which it’s not ok to hit on people. (Eg: on the subway).
Girls start experiencing this before they’re considered old enough for sex ed.
Creepy men regularly do this in a way that’s slightly deniable.
Like sitting way too close. Or asking an almost innocuous thing. And it feels really horrible to be on the receiving end, but it can be hard to put your finger on why. And if you object, the man who started it will try as hard as he can to say you’re being unreasonable. Often, bystanders or people you tell afterwards will empathically agree and tell you he was just being friendly and that didn’t have to be rude.
This is not your fault. It’s not your fault that creepy guys are awful to you, and it’s not your fault that people punish you for refusing to cooperate with their creepy actions.
There is usually no polite way to object. Because they manipulate the rules of politeness so that you have to be rude to say no.
It’s ok to be rude in that situation.
Being in that situation doesn’t mean you’re a rude inconsiderate person. It means you’re asserting an important boundary in the only available way.
Most of these guys know exactly what they are doing. It’s not innocent awkwardness. It’s a different thing. It’s doing something they know they can probably get away with denying that they’ve done.
(People do sometimes do this kind of thing by mistake, too. But it’s not ok then either. And most people who do this, know damn well what they’re doing.)
Just dropped my phone in yogurt. It’s gonna be that kind of morning.